How to conquer an ‘impossible’ mindset

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Imagine you are going about your normal daily business, and suddenly someone grabs you, puts a hood over your head, bundles you hurriedly into a van (just like in the movies), and drives you straight to the airport. Still trying to process the shock, you realise you are now onboard a private plane, and unsure of where you are headed. 

Finally, after hours of travel, you arrive at an unknown destination. Then your ‘kidnapper’ takes the hood off your head and announces to you that you are now in Mahalangur, Nepal and your assignment is to climb Sagarmatha. At this stage, you are perplexed and extremely angry. You are unfamiliar with everything happening in your world right now. By some stroke of luck or knowledge, you interpret Sagarmatha to be Mt. Everest, the highest mountain on earth. All you are able to mutter to your ‘kidnapper’ is “You must be joking.” He calms you down and with the look on his face, you guess he is dead serious. He, however, offers to provide you with the necessary gear to proceed with this ascent. 

He assures you that he has successfully climbed this mountain and several others and is willing to provide all the support you need to get to the summit. You protest again! Your supportive ‘kidnapper’ proceeds to inform you that climbing this mountain does not pose any substantial technical challenge as long as you are willing to take one step after the other. He explains to you that if you are willing to take the initial two steps, you will be two steps away from the ground level and two steps less to the peak of the mountain. Further, after each couple of steps, both of you will pause and celebrate your progress. You now reason that, if you take four steps, you will be four steps from the ground level and four steps less to the Mt. Everest summit. Strangely, you decide to give it a go. Your focus is now on the here-and-now, taking two steps at a time, even though you keep in mind the ultimate picture of getting to the peak of the mountain…

So you may ask, “What is this all about?” There are things we all, at different times, want to attempt or achieve. These can range from tasks and activities such as extinguishing a bad habit, developing a new skill, to great monumental endeavours like developing a new product or engaging in a product launch. Depending on where we are in life, we may find what we need to do challenging, similar to climbing Mt. Everest. This is because the venture is new and/or we feel so inept – physically, mentally, financially, and sometimes spiritually. The morale of this story is that keeping in mind this idea of ‘Little steps-Big picture,’ we can, with an awesome dose of patience and perseverance, achieve incredible things. 

…keeping in mind this idea of ‘Little steps-Big picture,’ we can, with an awesome dose of patience and perseverance, achieve incredible things. 

This simple yet powerful concept can also be applied to mundane things. Imagine you have been procrastinating organising and cleaning your bedroom, office, home office, shed, kitchen etc. Indeed, you have the big picture of a clean, tidy, immaculate personal space in your mind. However, to achieve that, all you need to do is start by perceiving the whole space as consisting of different parts. For instance, if you intend to tidy your room, your little step might simply be to pick up the clothes on the floor, chair, bed and hang them or put them away in the wardrobe. When you have achieved this, pause and celebrate! Reward yourself! Savour the good feeling! Later, which could still be same day or another, tidy and organise your reading desk or drawer dressing table. Repeat the same ritual of pause-and-reward. Your next step may be to vacuum and dust your carpet and furniture. Then, you may want to move on to cleaning your vents and windows etc.

The point is you don’t have to do everything all at once. Break it into manageable bits (steps) and be content with taking a couple of steps at a time. Soon you are at the summit of your Mt. Everest, only to realise that you haven’t conquered Mt. Everest, but have conquered an impossible mindset within. Happy climbing!

What will you give up?

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“…Get up! He is calling for you.” Throwing off his cloak, Bartimaueus jumped up and came to Jesus. -Mark 10:49-50

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Typically, we all have desires, goals, or visions of a preferred future. This is usually not limited to areas such as career, relationship, finance, spirituality, physical or emotional health, or personal development. While some of us look up to and attempt to emulate people we consider successful in our area of need or expertise, others consciously or unconsciously are envious of these individuals. Resentment beclouds their judgment making them unwilling to sacrifice or give up ‘something’ to obtain their desired life or lifestyle. They fail to answer the golden question, “What type of ‘me’ do I need to be or what part of me do I need to change to achieve the goal I much desire?”

It does not matter what position you are in now. What begs the question is what you are willing to give up to get up. Are you willing to reprioritize your time, energy, and resources towards the achievement of what is relevant, meaningful, and fulfilling to you? Do you recognise that you are God’s masterpiece, created anew in Christ Jesus so you can do the good things He planned for you a long time ago (Ephesians 2:10)? Do you realise that you have access to the same divine Godhead and resources that great individuals avail themselves of? Can you take the ‘cloak’ off your mind and truly approach the One who has come that you may have life, and have it in all its fullness?

Are you willing to reprioritize your time, energy, and resources towards the achievement of what is relevant, meaningful, and fulfilling to you?

If you will, I applaud your desire to get up, however, you need to follow this up with a corresponding action (and not just an action plan). Consider what you currently spend your time, money, and energy on. Can you account for how you manage your resources in a way that justify you truly want to live a life of impact?

I want you to begin to pay attention to the things that may conflict with working and staying committed to your vision and goals. If you are a working mother and a mature-age student (typically under immense academic pressure) for instance, you may discover that now may not be the best time to plan to attend the gym four days a week in order to get a well-toned body. “But some people do this,” you retort. It is important you realise that there may exist other support available to them that you are oblivious of. Therefore, rather than be unrealistic with the four days a week intention, you should consider starting with an actionable one day a week.

Another reason you may be behind on working on your goals is that you leave truly important things unattended to. Or is it that you are sacrificing what is important at the altar of what is urgent? Author Stephen Covey, defines important activities as those whose outcomes lead to the achievement of your goals whether personal or professional. He adds that urgent activities, conversely, are ones that demand immediate attention, and are often associated with the achievement of someone else’s goals. Most things in our life start out as important. Crisis, however, may suddenly promote some activities to the”urgent” category thereby leaving us a little time to attend to the truly important things.

Lastly, you may need to give up some comfort, increase your frustration tolerance, and come to terms with the things (thoughts, feelings, behaviours, actions) you have been avoiding or denying. Stepping out of your comfort zone is giving up your status quo to reach out for the great expanse of possibility you are destined for. So give up to get up!

The Fly and the Window Pane

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restaurant window         I want to share with you my version of a true story Price Pritchett shared in his book titled “You2”. This story has made quite an impact on me that I have used it several times to illustrate why, contrary to popular wisdom, trying harder may not necessarily guarantee your success in some endeavour.

Picture yourself sitting next to a window in a nice, posh and cosy restaurant. The waiter has just delivered your order and you are preparing to settle down to enjoy a much-deserved meal. The atmosphere is filled with a lovely aroma that will make even a satisfied stomach rumble with hunger. The ambience is simply great. All around are people enjoying their sumptuous meal, chatting away, and having a swell time.

In contrast to all that is happening inside the restaurant, you are observing the desperate attempt of a life-or-death struggle going on a few feet away. You have noticed a small fly burning out the last of its short life’s energy in a futile attempt to fly through the transparent glass of a window pane close to where you are seated. The whining wings tell the poignant story of the fly’s strategy – try harder.

The harder the fly tries, the surer it’s fate to pass out trying and not achieving his goal. This experience is even more painful as this fly identifies a couple of other flies partaking in the feast that was going on on the other side of the clear window pane. Though his strategy is not working, the sight of the pleasure the fly is potentially missing makes him continue to try harder.

“Trying harder” isn’t necessarily the solution to achieving more. Sometimes, in fact, it’s a big part of the problem.

At this point, the struggle is now part of the trap. It is becoming clear that the fly cannot break through the glass. Nevertheless, this little insect has staked its life on reaching its goal through sheer hard work and determination. Potentially, this fly is doomed.

Across the room, only steps away, the door is open. Ten seconds of flying time and this small creature could step into the rich, sumptuous world it seeks. With only a fraction of the effort now being wasted, it could overcome her self-imposed beliefs, limitations and inhibitions. The breakthrough possibility is there. It would be so easy.

Why doesn’t the fly try another approach, something dramatically different? How did it get so locked in on the idea that this particular route, and determined effort, is the only way to make an entrance into this possibility that is, though within his reach yet ‘impossible’ to grasp? What logic is there in continuing, until death, to seek a breakthrough with “more of the same”?

No doubt this approach makes sense to the fly. Regrettably, it’s an idea that will kill. “Trying harder” isn’t necessarily the solution to achieving more. Sometimes, in fact, it’s a big part of the problem. If you stake your hopes for a breakthrough on trying harder than ever, you may kill your chances for success.

So stop imitating the repetitive behaviour of the fly, begin to explore a new and empowering behaviour – a smarter approach to achieving your dreams. Begin to renew your mind and prove that which is good, acceptable and perfect will of God for your life and your future.

What outcome are you really expecting?

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perception-of-time-egg-or-chicken.jpgI‘m not certain where you are on your journey to discovering who you are or unlocking your innate potential. But one thing I know is that your expectations and findings are determined by your beliefs about yourself, God, and the world you live in.

Your expectations about people, work, play, and life are created by what you believe to be true (or in some cases, false). For instance, if you believe, “Today is gonna be a good day,” you will expect and see the good in yourself and your interaction with people and situations. Your optimism will ooze through your upbeat posture – the result of which you get more people reflecting back to you a positive attitude.

Just to remind you, your attitude is the way you view life. It is your perspective on people and things – your way of thinking or feeling about someone or something, typically one that is reflected in your behaviour. It is your general mental slant and the expression of your ‘private world’ of thoughts and feelings. To get an idea of your attitude, become aware of what you say, or your reaction when you give an opinion. Otherwise, what’s your response when there is an incredible challenge to be overcome?… when things are not going as planned?… when a loss seem inevitable?…when you face uncertainty? Is your outlook empowering or disempowering in these situations?

We all face challenges every day. But there is evidence that people with positive attitude and expectations intentionally see the good in people and situation – even the not so good situations. In other words, you get what you expect. So based on this, why don’t you begin to be intentional and manufacture your own empowering expectations!

Find below 7 power statements I consistently use to renew my mind:

  1. Because my attitude is determined by my expectations, I choose to approach life today with a positive attitude.
  2. I have a disposition of confidence.
  3. I see possibilities all around me.
  4. I expect to be successful.
  5. All things work together for my good.
  6. I attract into my life people, ideas, and situations in harmony with my goals.
  7. I enjoy a continuous flow of unconditional love from God.

So what are your expectations about yourself, your relationships, your career, the future? The reactions and results you get today are largely dependent on your attitude and your expectations. Let the odds align in your favour!

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The article above is for people who want to live a normal life. If you want to lead a supernatural life of greatness, in addition to the above, you have to learn to expect the unexpected from God. The kind of stuff about which most people would say to you, “You must be out of your mind.” Indeed, you are ‘out of your mind,’ and in the mind of God – thinking His thoughts and expecting His outcomes.

Look beyond the obvious.

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I’d like to share an idea with you from one of the books I recently came across.

The ideas in this book are quite transformative…yes! transformative in the sense that they are life-changing to the extent to which you practice them. I have come to realise that ideas are worth their weight in gold only when put into action, otherwise they are only as valuable as the space they occupy in our minds.

Here we go:

 

“If you want to accelerate your rate of achievement rapidly, you must search out and vigorously employ new behaviours.”  – Price Pritchett (You2)

This idea underscores the fact that unconventional results require unconventional approaches.

Mark (author of the gospel according to Mark, in the Bible) records the story of some four guys that needed to get a healing transformation for one of their friends who was suffering from paralysis. Jesus is in the house…they need to get their friend to Him!

The traditional approach (common methods used by everyone) is to ‘politely’ access whoever is in a house through the use of the entrance a.k.a the door. However, because these guys came a bit too late on the scene, they could not use the typical way. The fact that their friend needed a miracle was not enough a reason for the crowd to make a way for them. In the same vein, you need to understand that the fact that you need a breakthrough or a miracle, does not mean the world will stop and honour your sincere demand. You need to think and act differently. You need to vigorously seek new behaviours and strategies to ensure your breakthrough…yes! like taking off the roof! (Please don’t ask me who will pay for the repairs!)

Most people are used to ‘looking’ at the obvious. But for you, you may need to set aside a time daily or weekly to begin to exercise the skill of seeking out what may indeed be there but not be so obvious to others. You may need to reorganise existing elements to create something new. You may need to borrow an insight from other domains of life to leverage your area of influence. In other words, you may need to seek out unconventional approaches or methods to get (un)conventional results.

Most people keep turning back when they get to the ‘door’ to discover that there are many people like them trying to access their big break or breakthrough (…I know, some people are just spectators with no real intent on accessing the power of the Divine). The majority simply look for and follow the obvious. Following the obvious becomes a trap for some. That is, their old, tired, and worn out approach to doing things becomes the cog in the wheel of their progress. David (the main writer of the book of Psalms) says, “Open my eyes that I may see wondrous things out of your law.” There are amazing things – doors, opportunities, prospects, leads, untapped potentials, gifts, talents etc. – waiting to be taken advantage of by anyone who is willing to look beyond the obvious.

Why don’t you try this exercise:

1. Set aside some good time on a given day as suggested earlier

2. Look inwards and around beyond the obvious, generate some ‘insane’ ideas

3. Write them down

4. Pick a day and a time you can regularly work on at least one of your ideas. Work out the next step you can take in the direction of making this idea a reality

5. ACT: Act decisively. Commit to the new behaviour. Thank God constantly for the courage to execute.

I ‘d love to hear from you. Kindly drop me some comments.

Greatness is in you…unleash it.

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There are several ways to live and make an impact in your sphere of influence. Overcoming one challenge most people are running away from is one of your tickets to achieving this goal.

If greatness in any sphere of endeavour is easy, then the attainment of the venture will cease to connote any sense of greatness. God has invested the seed of greatness in us. His Word says, “Greater is He than is in you than he that is in the world.” Great things have been achieved in the world. But Earth is yet to see the ‘greater’ things which God is about to manifest through His sons.

I believe, what has been stalling this manifestation is that, at the first sign of hardship or a challenge, most people slip back into their comfort zone, expecting another person to burn the candle at both ends. Greatness is usually commensurate to the obstacle an individual is willing to surmount in the fulfilment of purpose.

Greatness suggests that there is a problem you are willing to devote your life, resources, and time to solve. It means you are willing to focus and be committed to an endeavour, excluding all other distractions. It indicates that there is a vision you have seen and that you will stop at nothing to see the manifestation of the ‘unseen’ revealed thereof. It means there is a cause you are willing to invest your energy and your potential into despite personal fear you may perceive.

The sum total of greatness is that you become a rare solution-provider in your area of influence. This is because you are willing to go the extra mile when most people are scared to even begin the journey.

God is preparing a core set of people who will literally operate with the mind and precision of God. They will be so much in sync with God’s purpose that they will think, feel, and act in a most unprecedented way. Challenges that have been viewed as ‘impossible,’ they will neutralise. This is because they have a possibility mindset. They tune in into the Father and carry out precisely what they see Him do. They go about their daily responsibilities with the chief aim of seeking and expanding the kingdom. They make incredible advances that can be likened to quantum leaps. All these are possible because they have come to the awareness of the greater One that is resident in them, and they have decided to be one with the Almighty.

Which area of life do you want to have the most impact? I love to hear from you. Please leave some comments.